why singles stay single after bonding

(30 august, 112a)

in relationships, i think i'm a certificate short of being a guru. (of course, my teachings are not applicable to me..sayang!) went out with two of my singletopia cohabitants. met up with them at napoli, had dinner then coffee at mocha blends, discussed issues that would never pass as juvenalia. our issues for tonight: me and my relationships, MotherSoccer and her newfound/pending independence and GuitarGoddess and her moving on dilemmas. GGs is actually more of empowerment and liberating herself (which she finds so hard to do!) MSs dad just passed away and so now she's suddenly thrown over to the indie pit. i've been friends with both since highschool, and discussing stuff like these made me realize that we do get old. and older.

anyway, MSs' was a sensitive issue, and i feel proud that she's come a long way from being a brat to what she is right now. i love her dearly, well, all of my friends. i guess i just dont show them that, especially if i've known them for more than five years. (my new friends are lucky..hehehe). all i could offer her: support and kind words. with GG though, all i could offer her were not so kind words to toughen her up. basically, it's just take control, empower yourself and be liberated! i think she'll follow my teachings. i do know what i'm talking about...i think!

there is one thing though that is not quite clear to me and to my gfs: what is the philosophy behind lying to someone you don't have a relationship with? at least not have a relationship yet. this baffled us. whether or not there is a pending relationship or an unimagined realtionship between two people, why do guys (oops, zeroing in na ako!!! this is just to make my life easier...hehehe) lie/make excuses to girls, especially when they know the girls they go out with are not dumb and are not their gfs yet. lies to non gfs yet. or non gfs period.

for non gfs yet: these guys have a motive. this is a premeditated crime. be careful. they want to impress you, and not be found out - whether he's doing someone else, wasting his piso texting this girl he used to go out with or wanted to go out with (pre or post you), they're sigurista (an automatic non romantic!)...you might be better off without them (harsh words, eh?)

for non gfs period: these guys are weird! or confused. the fact that you are a non gf period means that they cannot lie to you. they don't have the license to do that. in the first place, non gfs period will never be in that guy's gf/bf relationship, unless these non gfs period are not aware that they are being reclassified as non gfs yet. but sticking to our premise, these guys can't lie, the same way they can't cheat on you. unless he's already emotionally attached to you, or knows that you already are emotionally attached to him. lagot.

sometimes i surprise myself with what i tell or advise my girlfriends. as Sweet80sContraDiva would always say, "May wisdom ka e." I feel that i should have been a psychotherapist or something like that...maybe in a parallel life.